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A letter from a mom to a daughter before freshman year.

“Love, Mama,” A Letter to My Daughter Before Freshman Year

My daughter left for college last August. This is the letter I gave her during our last family dinner at home. We laughed…we cried…and surprisingly, we let her go. Dear Daughter, Don’t go. Love, Mama Dear Daughter, No, of course that’s not my message to you. That would go against every article I’ve consumed over […]

Why summer is no time for your teenager to sit around doing nothing.

Why The Lazy Days of Summer Shouldn’t Be Quite So Lazy

It’s the middle of July and it is time for your teenager to get off the couch.  Never mind the many voices wistfully calling for a summer break, imagining high school kids filling their days with reading for pleasure, swimming and long walks in the woods. Or college students giving their brains a rest and […]

14 reasons why we are the luckiest parents. Ever.

We are the Luckiest Parents. Ever.

From the moment that we first pondered having children through the day that those children bear our grandchildren, we stand apart from parents throughout the rest of human history in our good fortune. While I love complaining about parenting as much as the next mom, I think there is value in stepping back for a […]

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“Dear Mom,” From Your Off to College Daughter

In examining the off to college process we have heard from the parents. We have looked at dorm shopping, adjusting to life without our kids and the silver lining that just might exist in the empty nest. But up until now we have not heard from the kids. How does it feel to be 18 […]

5 ways to stay close to your college kids

5 Ways to Keep Your Family Close While You Grow Apart

College kids and young adults communicate and share more with their parents than in past generations. Some of this is the changing relationship between the generations and some of it is technology. Research shows our children are happier to talk with us and more comfortable sharing information about their friends, relationships and finances than we […]

What parents worry about when their kids go to college

What Parents Worry About When Their Kids Go To College

Letting our kids go can be hard. Part of the difficulty in watching them go to college is simply the pain of separation from those we love so passionately. But for many parents, (hand raised) worry, or maybe just concern, is a big part of the challenge. We worry about illness, safety, happiness, in short, […]

7 big talks to have with your teens before they leave for college

Going to College: 7 Big Talks to Have Before They Leave

When we send our kids off to college it is all too easy get caught up in the whirlwind of graduation, dorm shopping, packing and moving. They try to squeeze in every last second with their friends and we may succumb to some nostalgia and sadness. But motherhood means looking forward and preparing, not for […]

Lessons for a 9th grade son. Six things to learn during freshman year.

Lessons for a Ninth Grade Son

You are about to embark on life clinging to the lowest rung of a well-organized social food chain. A ninth grade boy occupies the bottom spot in a pecking order that was established many generations ago. You will inevitably rise from this spot. But do not be in too much of a hurry, there is […]

Talking to your teen about mental health in college can be scary and awkward. Here's how to start the conversation.

Mental Health in College: What Parents Need to Know

Dear Readers, I am just like you—a proud, tired, and often worried parent of two kids teetering on the brink of adulthood. My daughter just graduated from a highly selective liberal arts college. She once told me, “I am majoring in my own sanity.” And over her undergraduate years, she studied through bouts of severe […]

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Grown and Flown Appearance at The Container Store

We have previously gushed about our admiration for The Container Store, writing about the reasons why we love dorm shopping there for our off-to-college kids. We are thrilled to announce that, on August 5, 2015, 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm, we will be making an appearance in The Container Store in White Plains, New York, to […]

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When Your Child Wants Off the College Carousel

The process of deciding where to go to college is the single most significant event in your child’s secondary school experience. For many, the college process begins in 9th grade, with some parents seeding the groundwork before middle school. I wasn’t one of them. My daughter began her college search in earnest in her junior […]

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Loosening the Ties that Bind: Growing Up with Autism

I don’t know how to do this. There’s no book for taking the next step. No Fiske Guide to Colleges. No Barron’s. When our son Jonathan was preparing to leave home for college, we had a whole shelf of books to guide our family. There’s no book for our autistic son Mickey, who is turning […]

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Confessions of a Stalker Mom

Marjorie Rosenblatt, a Grown and Flown friend, writes: I am a physician, and a writer, but first and foremost, I am a mother. While having our children grow up and move on is a natural progression, it somehow is not feeling so natural to me. I was never one of the “powers-that-be” mothers, able to […]

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Lessons for a 9th grade son. Six things to learn during freshman year.

Lessons for a Ninth Grade Son

You are about to embark on life clinging to the lowest rung of a well-organized social food chain. A ninth grade boy occupies the bottom spot in a pecking order that was established many generations ago. You will inevitably rise from this spot. But do not be in too much of a hurry, there is […]

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Knowing My Sons a Little Less

So this is it. The third and final time. Next week I will sit through my youngest son’s high school graduation. Like every parent in that audience, and in every high school auditorium and football field, I will burst with pride and more than a touch of sadness. We will have weeks and months before […]

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Parenting Teens

14 reasons why we are the luckiest parents. Ever.

We are the Luckiest Parents. Ever.

From the moment that we first pondered having children through the day that those children bear our grandchildren, we stand apart from parents throughout the rest of human history in our good fortune. While I love complaining about parenting as much as the next mom, I think there is value in stepping back for a […]

There is no more critical time for mothers and daughters than during the teen years.

Mothers and Daughters, the Teenage Years

Teenage girls travel in packs and, over time, mothers and daughters in this extended friend circle know one another well. I love the weekends when it is our turn for a Friday night sleepover because, come late Saturday morning, I will flip pancakes for these girls who will soon scatter to college. I stand and […]

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I Know How She Does It

I Know How She Does It: A Review and Q&A with Laura Vanderkam

Not long after my second child was born I went back to work. I was grateful to have a new job, thrilled for the opportunity to be back on a trading floor and determined that having young sons would not hold me back. One day shortly after I returned to work my nanny called — […]

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Four Most Dreaded Words for a Stay-at-Home-Mom

What comes to mind when you hear that an educated woman, a woman who once had a burgeoning career, has stepped down to become a stay-at-home-mom?  Really, what do you think?  That she is a great mom?  That she wasn’t really all that successful and found the hidden trap door in the floor?  That she […]

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