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5 ways to stay close to your college kids

5 Ways to Keep Your Family Close While You Grow Apart

College kids and young adults communicate and share more with their parents than in past generations. Some of this is the changing relationship between the generations and some of it is technology. Research shows our children are happier to talk with us and more comfortable sharing information about their friends, relationships and finances than we […]

Siblings and college choice

The “Sibling Factor” in College Choice

High school seniors are influenced by many factors when selecting a college to attend but new research suggests an additional influence: siblings. Researchers from Harvard* found that an older sibling’s college choice had a measurable impact on younger kids in the house, particularly if the siblings were the same gender, close in age and academic […]

What parents worry about when their kids go to college

What Parents Worry About When Their Kids Go To College

Letting our kids go can be hard. Part of the difficulty in watching them go to college is simply the pain of separation from those we love so passionately. But for many parents, (hand raised) worry, or maybe just concern, is a big part of the challenge. We worry about illness, safety, happiness, in short, […]

7 big talks to have with your teens before they leave for college

Going to College: 7 Big Talks to Have Before They Leave

When we send our kids off to college it is all too easy get caught up in the whirlwind of graduation, dorm shopping, packing and moving. They try to squeeze in every last second with their friends and we may succumb to some nostalgia and sadness. But motherhood means looking forward and preparing, not for […]

Lessons for a 9th grade son. Six things to learn during freshman year.

Lessons for a Ninth Grade Son

You are about to embark on life clinging to the lowest rung of a well-organized social food chain. A ninth grade boy occupies the bottom spot in a pecking order that was established many generations ago. You will inevitably rise from this spot. But do not be in too much of a hurry, there is […]

Talking to your teen about mental health in college can be scary and awkward. Here's how to start the conversation.

Mental Health in College: What Parents Need to Know

Dear Readers, I am just like you—a proud, tired, and often worried parent of two kids teetering on the brink of adulthood. My daughter just graduated from a highly selective liberal arts college. She once told me, “I am majoring in my own sanity.” And over her undergraduate years, she studied through bouts of severe […]

These "10 Commandments of Dorm Shopping" will help you and your off to college teen make smart choices while saving time and money.

10 Commandments of Dorm Shopping

Outfitting a dorm room might be just one more shopping trip if it weren’t so imbued with expense, confusion and nostalgia. It is so easy to get so much wrong and wind up having wasted both time and money. We gathered our cadre of experienced moms and offer up these 10 Commandments, okay “guidelines,” to […]

Answering these 50 questions before you go dorm room shopping with your off-to-college teen will save you time and money.

Dorm Room Shopping: 50 Questions to Answer First

Stop. Slide that credit card back in your wallet and set down that dorm room shopping laundry list. Yes, you are facing the mother of all back-to-school shops. And, yes it seems like your freshman needs a million insanely expensive things. But before you wander through the endless (and, we promise you, they are endless) […]

Dear Parent of newly admitted college freshman, enjoy your kid's news but, we are here to tell you, nothing will ever be there same again. Six reasons why.

Dear Parent of Newly Admitted College Freshman

Congratulations to you, yes, to you. Although your high school senior has certainly worked hard to be recognized by their college admissions office, we parents know that no kid does it alone. Almost two decades of loving support is what led your teen to this day, so amidst the shouts of glee and the excitement […]

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Empty nest silver lining

Empty Nest Silver Lining

I have been preparing for the empty nest for two decades. I hated it when my boys went off to nursery school. I was not one of those mothers who thought sleep away summer camp was a great idea. So when two of my three children went off to college in quick succession, I feared […]

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College Graduation and the Parenthood Abyss

Mary Dell writes: My son, our eldest child, will celebrate his college graduation this weekend. Today, while I sit in the kitchen, I read the fine words of another mom whose child recently graduated. I begin to imagine the moment when our son’s name is called and he walks onto the stage to receive his diploma. […]

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Junior Year in High School: 8 Ways to help your teen get ready for college

Dear Mom of High School Junior

Dear Mom of High School Junior, Okay, no more putting it off, it is time to talk about college. If you have kept the subject under wraps until now during Freshman and Sophomore years, you and your kid are about to go on a voyage of discovery during his junior year.  He or she will […]

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12 Best Reasons for Joining the PTA

Mary Dell writes: I survived my term as PTA president. Without a doubt, it was one of the hardest jobs I ever signed up for, including those I got paid to do. My family questioned my sanity, wondering what led me to jump into the deep end of parent volunteerism. I had my own doubts, […]

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High School Freshman Year: 10 tips for parents to help their teen through the first year of high school.

Dear Mom of High School Freshman

Dear Mom of High School Freshman, It is hard not to feel, in those weeks leading up to the first day of freshman year, that you and your child have finally hit the big leagues. Because you have. High school is, in many ways, a break with everything that has gone before. Suddenly your child, […]

7 big talks to have with your teens before they leave for college

Going to College: 7 Big Talks to Have Before They Leave

When we send our kids off to college it is all too easy get caught up in the whirlwind of graduation, dorm shopping, packing and moving. They try to squeeze in every last second with their friends and we may succumb to some nostalgia and sadness. But motherhood means looking forward and preparing, not for […]

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18 leaves little gashes on my heart, like stinging paper cuts. As he readies for college, I miss him before he is gone and I grieve once he has left.

This is Adolescence: 18

18 is a year overflowing with contradictions. Eighteen wants to be a child forever and yet he cannot wait to grow up. He loves his house and cannot wait to leave it. Eighteen is our teen living in our home and in the same momentous year, an adult residing in another state. On the eve […]

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Empty Nest: Fired, a Year Ago

From a Grown and Flown friend: A year ago, my daughter got her driver’s license.  It came as a bit of a surprise, having failed two driving tests prior to this important right of passage.  We had an extra car waiting in the driveway for her and, the next day after procuring her passage to […]

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Six Ways a Stay-at-Home Mom Can Remain Connected to the Job Market

There are many things I could have foreseen about my life, but what I never could have imagined was that I would be one of the one in three moms  who opts out of the workforce after their children are born. I am a cliché, the stay-at-home mom who moved to the suburbs and, facing […]

Susan Smith Eliis

Former CEO of Product RED on Getting Off and On the Career Track

Susan Smith Ellis, former CEO of Product RED, writes for Grown and Flown readers about the challenges of going back to work after stepping off the career track to be at home with her children. Eighteen years ago, after a successful career in advertising, I decided not to go back to work when I found […]

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