College shopping is beyond confusing. There is the list the college sends, there is another list that the store hands out and that list is different from what your student is telling you she needs. You know your kid has never used an alarm clock (it is 2018 and he doesn’t even remember a time when he didn’t have a phone by his bed) and that an air-conditioned dorm does not need a fan, so who to believe?
At the risk of causing any more confusion here are our suggestions to keep you sane while college shopping with your kid.
5 Ways to Stay Sane College Shopping
1. Join Grown and Flown Parents and ask any and every question you have about this move to campus. There are over 75,000 high school and college parents in our closed group and most have been through this transition and are happy to offer insights.
2. Start by buying only the items you KNOW your kid will NEED. No one gets through freshman year without sheets, towels, hangers, a pillow and a backpack. Check out this list of the 10 essentials. But start college shopping with the “must haves” before you worry about the “might likes”. If you can afford it, buy quality. Some of these items, if they are poor quality, will not make it through the four years. Many quality items we bought were handed down among siblings.
3. Check the college’s website CAREFULLY. You are looking for items that are banned (e.g. electric kettles, toaster ovens, extension cords) and what items are provided (e.g. trash cans, task lighting, full length mirror). The college’s housing site will also give you the dimensions of the room if you are considering a rug and the configurations of the beds (e.g. if the beds are bunked you may not want bed risers but you might want a bunk shelf.) Also check out YouTube where you might find videos of the rooms at your teen’s school.
4. Figure out where you are going college shopping by where your kid is going to school and how many different places you can stand to go. If your teen loves to shop and has endless patience, small niche retailers might work. If they are going to school far from home consider, Bed, Bath and Beyond because it is a one-stop shop for all college shopping and ease of pack and hold which lets you commit to purchases you have set aside (but not paid for) after you have seen the room and what the roommates and suite-mates are bringing. Both Bed, Bath and Beyond and Amazon Student make it VERY easy to buy any items you were unsure of later on with free shipping, quick delivery and easy returns. Also sign up for discounts and free college nights. In many cases this will give you 20% off everything you will need for the dorm and all they ask of you is your email address, seems like a pretty fair trade.
5. Warning. Here’s what your freshman may NOT need. While we gave you a list of the 10 needed items (Check out this list that includes a mattress topper, mattress encasement, and laundry basket/bag that easily travels to the laundry room), here are some that you may consider or reject depending on your student. Parents tell us that many of these items were found still in the boxes, untouched at move out day.
- Iron and ironing board, they wear it wrinkled
- Command hooks, perfect for most dorms but a big fail on some cinder block walls
- Cleaning products, you know your kid, will they really use these?
- Bed risers, some beds have their own mechanism for lofting, check before you buy
- Coffee maker, many times there is a cheap easy cup available on campus
- Printer, kids often share and universities sometimes provide them in convenient locations
- A stack of towels, they will take up space and sit wet on the floor, buy two quality ones instead of six cheap ones
- School supplies, they mostly just use their laptop
- Laptop locks
- Textbooks! Sure they need some of the books, but ask them to consider renting or borrowing from friends who no longer need theirs
- Pre-made first aid kit. Make your own with the products your teen likes and uses. Be sure to include a thermometer, unfortunately, it will get used.
- A robe, most kids just don’t wear them.
- Heavy comforter or duvet. Check first on the heating and the age of the building (my son brought his back home unopened because his room was so warm.)
- Think twice about ordering those all-in-one package offers that colleges send out. This is not done by the college but rather a retailer. Parents seem to be disappointed in the quality and found they had better response selecting their own items. Here is a discussion around this topic.