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Talking to your teen about mental health in college can be scary and awkward. Here's how to start the conversation.

Mental Health in College: What Parents Need to Know

Dear Readers, I am just like you—a proud, tired, and often worried parent of two kids teetering on the brink of adulthood. My daughter just graduated from a highly selective liberal arts college. She once told me, “I am majoring in my own sanity.” And over her undergraduate years, she studied through bouts of severe […]

These "10 Commandments of Dorm Shopping" will help you and your off to college teen make smart choices while saving time and money.

10 Commandments of Dorm Shopping

Outfitting a dorm room might be just one more shopping trip if it weren’t so imbued with expense, confusion and nostalgia. It is so easy to get so much wrong and wind up having wasted both time and money. We gathered our cadre of experienced moms and offer up these 10 Commandments, okay “guidelines,” to […]

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When Parents Ask Kids for Tech Help

Most of my generation related to the Super Bowl advertisement that showed an amazed Katie Couric and Bryant Gumbel mystified by “The Internet.” I still remember the day email was introduced in my office and I thought I was pretty hip with my first huge cell phone. Today I email and text, have a rarely […]

The Mommy Track: How it works for employees and the companies that manage it well.

“In Defense of the Mommy Track”

Lisa Heffernan writes in Vox about the Mommy Track and the success that companies find when they manage it well. Vodafone, the telecommunications giant, announced in March that it was changing its global policies for new mothers. Beginning this year, all women will be offered 16 weeks of paid maternity leave and the ability to […]

The Opposite of Spoiled, by Ron Lieber

The Opposite of Spoiled: Review and Q&A With Author Ron Lieber

When I first heard of Ron Lieber’s Book, The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous, and Smart About Money, it was with a sense of misgiving. Fighting against the spoiling effects of upper middle class life has been something that has occupied my thinking for years and I was fairly certain many […]

Answering these 50 questions before you go dorm room shopping with your off-to-college teen will save you time and money.

Dorm Room Shopping: 50 Questions to Answer First

Stop. Slide that credit card back in your wallet and set down that dorm room shopping laundry list. Yes, you are facing the mother of all back-to-school shops. And, yes it seems like your freshman needs a million insanely expensive things. But before you wander through the endless (and, we promise you, they are endless) […]

How to help your student move out of the college dorm: Eleven steps to save time, prevent backache, and minimize stress.

Moving Kids Out of the College Dorm, for the Summer or Forever

Here is the best-kept secret about the college school year. It is about 15 minutes long.  No sooner do kids return to college from spring break than they are ready to move back home for the summer. Moving into the college dorm or apartment was fun. The sheets and towels were new, the mattress topper was […]

We have come to believe that only those who have passion find fulfillment and success professionally. It’s as if passion is life’s magic pixie dust."

The Perils of Passion

“We have come to believe that only those who have passion find fulfillment and success professionally. It’s as if passion is life’s magic pixie dust.”  In her essay in The New York Times Motherlode, “Our Push for ‘Passion’ and Why it Harms Our Kids,” Lisa writes about the insidious nature of our children’s and teenager’s […]

Dear Parent of newly admitted college freshman, enjoy your kid's news but, we are here to tell you, nothing will ever be there same again. Six reasons why.

Dear Parent of Newly Admitted College Freshman

Congratulations to you, yes, to you. Although your high school senior has certainly worked hard to be recognized by their college admissions office, we parents know that no kid does it alone. Almost two decades of loving support is what led your teen to this day, so amidst the shouts of glee and the excitement […]

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College Visits: Eight tips to remember when taking a college road trip with your teen.

Lessons Learned and Practical Advice for a College Road Trip

Parents of teenagers watch college loom larger on the horizon every day. Looking for advice for our high school kids, we turned to the experts at the excellent guidebook, College Admission, who encourage parents to back off and free kids to manage the application process independently. The one exception to this rule, the college road trip, […]

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Emptying the Nest Into the College Dorm

Lisa writes: Parenthood has two big transitions, when our children arrive and when they leave.  We managed the first, sometimes for better and sometimes for worse, and now we are facing the second. Our children are leaving  and moving them into their college dorm room is a moment we have looked forward to and dreaded […]

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BLOGGING

I Love Hate Blogging

We were blogging virgins. Neither of us had any idea what a blog was and had never read one, let alone written one. But as we have dipped our toes into this corner of the social network and are now up to our knees, I have realized a few things: I love: Thinking about parenting […]

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Getting Kids to Work Harder in School: A New York Times Motherlode Rebuttal

This week on the New York Times Motherlode parenting blog, author/teacher/parent Jessica Lahey* wrote her regular Parent-Teacher Conference column on the question “How Can You Make a Student Care Enough to Work Harder?” The post argues that parents of an unmotivated high school student who has failed a midterm exam should “back off” and allow the student […]

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Parenting and Sports

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Why Parents Should Push Their Kids to Play Team Sports

One of the great parenting quandaries is when to push our kids and when to back off. This issue surfaces in every aspect of their lives from academics to music lessons to team sports. For each child there is a different answer and for each family a different story, but on the issue of sports, […]

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Soccer Moms and Dads Misbehaving

And then there are the jerks…Earlier this week, we sang the praises of parents who have made standing on the sidelines such a joy, but we would be remiss if we failed to mention a few others.  The list of what we are grateful for is long but, examples of soccer moms and dads misbehaving […]

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Parenting and Social Media

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When Parents Ask Kids for Tech Help

Most of my generation related to the Super Bowl advertisement that showed an amazed Katie Couric and Bryant Gumbel mystified by “The Internet.” I still remember the day email was introduced in my office and I thought I was pretty hip with my first huge cell phone. Today I email and text, have a rarely […]

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Stuck in 2014 in our Empty Nest

Lisa writes: 10 months from now my husband and I will truly live in an empty nest and our real problems will begin. With two boys away at college and one to go, we are in a period of transition that helps me get ready for that day when time will stop. Unfortunately, nothing can […]

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Work Life Balance

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Four Most Dreaded Words for a Stay-at-Home-Mom

What comes to mind when you hear that an educated woman, a woman who once had a burgeoning career, has stepped down to become a stay-at-home-mom?  Really, what do you think?  That she is a great mom?  That she wasn’t really all that successful and found the hidden trap door in the floor?  That she […]

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Former CEO of Product RED on Getting Off and On the Career Track

Susan Smith Ellis, former CEO of Product RED, writes for Grown and Flown readers about the challenges of going back to work after stepping off the career track to be at home with her children. Eighteen years ago, after a successful career in advertising, I decided not to go back to work when I found […]

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