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Siblings and college choice

The “Sibling Factor” in College Choice

High school seniors are influenced by many factors when selecting a college to attend but new research suggests an additional influence: siblings. Researchers from Harvard* found that an older sibling’s college choice had a measurable impact on younger kids in the house, particularly if the siblings were the same gender, close in age and academic […]

What parents worry about when their kids go to college

What Parents Worry About When Their Kids Go To College

Letting our kids go can be hard. Part of the difficulty in watching them go to college is simply the pain of separation from those we love so passionately. But for many parents, (hand raised) worry, or maybe just concern, is a big part of the challenge. We worry about illness, safety, happiness, in short, […]

7 big talks to have with your teens before they leave for college

Going to College: 7 Big Talks to Have Before They Leave

When we send our kids off to college it is all too easy get caught up in the whirlwind of graduation, dorm shopping, packing and moving. They try to squeeze in every last second with their friends and we may succumb to some nostalgia and sadness. But motherhood means looking forward and preparing, not for […]

Katie Workman recipe, photo credit: Todd Coleman

First Apartment Cooking: 5 Fab Recipes from Katie Workman

When we sent our kids off to college, they lived in dorms and ate in the cafeteria. But soon, some of them found their way into their first apartments. With their tiny kitchens and equally tiny budgets, they needed some suggestions for cheap, easy, quick, yet delicious meals. We turned to our friend Katie Workman […]

Lessons for a 9th grade son. Six things to learn during freshman year.

Lessons for a Ninth Grade Son

You are about to embark on life clinging to the lowest rung of a well-organized social food chain. A ninth grade boy occupies the bottom spot in a pecking order that was established many generations ago. You will inevitably rise from this spot. But do not be in too much of a hurry, there is […]

Talking to your teen about mental health in college can be scary and awkward. Here's how to start the conversation.

Mental Health in College: What Parents Need to Know

Dear Readers, I am just like you—a proud, tired, and often worried parent of two kids teetering on the brink of adulthood. My daughter just graduated from a highly selective liberal arts college. She once told me, “I am majoring in my own sanity.” And over her undergraduate years, she studied through bouts of severe […]

These "10 Commandments of Dorm Shopping" will help you and your off to college teen make smart choices while saving time and money.

10 Commandments of Dorm Shopping

Outfitting a dorm room might be just one more shopping trip if it weren’t so imbued with expense, confusion and nostalgia. It is so easy to get so much wrong and wind up having wasted both time and money. We gathered our cadre of experienced moms and offer up these 10 Commandments, okay “guidelines,” to […]

Answering these 50 questions before you go dorm room shopping with your off-to-college teen will save you time and money.

Dorm Room Shopping: 50 Questions to Answer First

Stop. Slide that credit card back in your wallet and set down that dorm room shopping laundry list. Yes, you are facing the mother of all back-to-school shops. And, yes it seems like your freshman needs a million insanely expensive things. But before you wander through the endless (and, we promise you, they are endless) […]

Dear Parent of newly admitted college freshman, enjoy your kid's news but, we are here to tell you, nothing will ever be there same again. Six reasons why.

Dear Parent of Newly Admitted College Freshman

Congratulations to you, yes, to you. Although your high school senior has certainly worked hard to be recognized by their college admissions office, we parents know that no kid does it alone. Almost two decades of loving support is what led your teen to this day, so amidst the shouts of glee and the excitement […]


How to research Greek life at college

When Joining a Sorority is Part of the College Decision

Rush. Pledging. Do these words bring back memories from your own college days or has the sum total of your familiarity with Greek Life come from repeated viewings of Legally Blonde? If your high school daughter is now in the college hunt, determining “fit” with a school’s social life will be a crucial part of […]

Dorm Shopping: Don't make these mistakes.

Top Twelve Dorm Shopping Mistakes

With high school graduation behind us, Grown and Flown is focused in the day we will drop off our youngest kids at their freshmen dorms. Though we prefer to stick our heads in the sand and ignore the inevitable, it is time to get them ready for the tiny new living spaces that will be […]

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Empty Nest

Grown and Flown on Scary Mommy!

Among the top blogs we have fallen in love with is Scary Mommy, the brainchild of Jill Smokler. If we loved Scary Mommy before, we love her even more now that we are  guest posted on her site. As we send Jill this digital thank you note, we hope we are also sending you over to […]


Reading on Your Mind with these Best Books

Lisa writes: December is book month whether buying gifts for others or just looking for something to curl up with over the holidays.  So in the spirit of the season, here are a few titles that we want to share, ones we put in the category of “best books.”  Some are new, some are not. […]

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Katie Couric, Lisa Heffernan, Grown and Flown

Katie Couric Joins Us in the Empty Nest

Katie Couric is taking her youngest daughter to college this fall and I joined her show yesterday to talk about the empty nest along with our friend, Sharon Greenthal who blogs at Empty House, Full Mind. Here are two clips from the show (begin the first one at 1:50): The episode was short and I […]

Lessons for a 9th grade son. Six things to learn during freshman year.

Lessons for a Ninth Grade Son

You are about to embark on life clinging to the lowest rung of a well-organized social food chain. A ninth grade boy occupies the bottom spot in a pecking order that was established many generations ago. You will inevitably rise from this spot. But do not be in too much of a hurry, there is […]

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Parenting Teens

Teenage surfer, surfer

Note to Self: on Parenting Teens

Parenting teens can be an emotional whirlwind and in the heat of the battle it is easy to forget lessons learned the hard way. So, note to self… It is not your life, it’s his. Your mother thought she knew what you were up to. Sometimes it really is better if they don’t tell you. […]

Teenage Brain: Neurologist Frances Jensen offers data and advice for parents to help kids understand the vulnerability and power of the brain.

The Teenage Brain: What Parents Need to Know

The teenage brain is not just an adult brain with fewer miles on it,” says Frances E. Jensen, a professor of neurology. “It’s a paradoxical time of development. These are people with very sharp brains, but they’re not quite sure what to do with them.” Thinking back on my children, working their way through middle […]

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Work Life Balance

Returning to work: Good news about returning to work after a career break

Returning to Work After a Career Break: The GOOD News

Carol Fishman Cohen, Co-founder, iRelaunch writes: Regardless of her intent, Judith Warner’s NYT Magazine article “The Mid Career Time Out (Is Over)” is causing readers to conclude that taking a career break leads inevitably to divorce, misery and lower pay.  Not only is this conclusion negative and demoralizing, but it’s not true. Taking a career break […]

Atlantic story

Four Most Dreaded Words for a Stay-at-Home-Mom

What comes to mind when you hear that an educated woman, a woman who once had a burgeoning career, has stepped down to become a stay-at-home-mom?  Really, what do you think?  That she is a great mom?  That she wasn’t really all that successful and found the hidden trap door in the floor?  That she […]

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