With high school graduation behind us, Grown and Flown is focused in the day we will drop off our youngest kids at their freshmen dorms. Though we prefer to stick our heads in the sand and ignore the inevitable, it is time to get them ready for the tiny new living spaces that will be their homes away from home. Five years ago, we were rookie moms and made our share of dorm shopping rookie mistakes. Frankly, we bought a lot of crap. This time, with experience on our side, we hope to give you some thoughts on how to approach what might be your last back-to-school shopping trip….in life.
1. Dorm Shopping is NOT like a School Supply List
My daughter’s college mailed a “What to Bring” list with seven categories and 82 separate items. My advice – do not treat this like the supply lists from your child’s elementary school where, scavenger hunt-style, you dutifully checked off each item while wheeling a cart through Staples. Instead, concentrate on basic needs. Anything and everything else can be ordered later online.
In fact, before you grab your credit card and keys, take a look at this next post, first. We guarantee it will save you time, money and loads of aggravation:
2. Dorms are Minuscule
Keep this mantra in mind…..Less is more, less is more. Dorm rooms are tiny and spaces, shared. There is minimal room for the necessities and no room for extras. Forget oversize.
3. Kids are Pigs
Ever seen a photo of a lived-in college room? Appalled? We were, too. The dorm room you help your kid set up will begin to deteriorate the moment you wave your tearful goodbye. In the next nine months, your son or daughter will welcome friends into that room where every surface will be treated as a chair. Some of the “dorm room shopping essentials” you eagerly purchased in July will be stuffed in corners, unopened and collecting dust until they are rediscovered in May.
4. Store Savings
Everything about college is expensive, and that definitely includes dorm shopping so look for some great shopping deals. Bed, Bath and Beyond is generous with savings coupons and they are flexible about expiration dates. With over 1000 stores, watch for special college nights this summer.
Bed, Bath and Beyond offers shop now and pick up later in your student’s college town. They also ship for free if you hit a minimum dollar amount.
Finally, Join Amazon Student FREE Two-Day Shipping for College Students for FREE for a six-month trial period. During those six months, your student can order whatever they need once they have settled into their new dorm room.
5. Underbed Space? You Have No Clue
This is the single biggest question mark that your kid may not know the answer to until move in day. Those bed risers you were convinced would be perfect? They don’t work with bunk beds and are unnecessary with many elevated beds. Resist the urge to plan for this space until you know the dimensions.
One fun, space-saving option that will work with ANY dorm room is this cute storage cube that doubles as a guest chair, too.
6. Be Careful with Meds
Stuffing a medicine kit for your college freshman can be dangerous. When at home and sick, our teenagers take the analgesic, decongestant, or antihistamine we dole out. We have decades of experience in understanding how over-the-counter medicines should be taken. Our kids do not and, if we send them off to college with all the meds and none of the wisdom, it is very easy for them to over medicate as they battle their first cold while trying to finish a paper and study for a test. So prescription meds, band aids, a thermometer, cough drops, Neosporin, and one analgesic – yes. But leave out multiple meds that have the same active ingredients. One pharmacist mom gave us her best advice for her freshman son. (BTW, Target will give send you a free first aid kit bag if you purchase three items like band aids or headache remedies.)
We feel so strongly about this next tip because we feel equally strongly about hating waste. When you buy things that break apart before freshman year ends, it is maddening. See what else made our list below:
7. Don’t Buy Crap
Even the most careful kid will be hard pressed to keep their college possessions in good shape as they move in and out of dorm rooms and college apartments for the next four years. Fragile and dainty will become ripped up and broken. Whatever goes in your shopping cart must be judged for durability. Put it back on the shelf if it doesn’t pass muster.
8. Flying or Driving?
There is a fork in the road here and you already know which path you will take with your freshman kid. If you are flying, it will be impossible to bring much more than your child’s clothes, electronics, x-long sheets/comforter and prescription meds. Seek out the “click and pick up” services from The Container Store, Bed, Bath and Beyond and Target. If you are driving your kid, you may still want to use this service and have a far more comfortable ride.
9. No Room for Luggage
As adults, we are accustomed to traveling with luggage but we also have closets wherever we land. College kids have minimal storage space, so consider the collapsible duffel bag that is hanging around in your basement as the perfect piece of luggage. When our son began to drive himself back and forth to school, he used garbage bags for luggage which meant he had a starter pack for the trash can when he arrived.
10. One Pillow is Not Enough
Your kid’s dorm bed will function as bedroom/living room/study and the pillow he sleeps on will not be enough to lean back onto as he studies. Bring a second bed pillow, a large square pillow in a sham, or a backrest pillow to cushion the hard wood or wall.
11. Power Struggle
Your kid will travel to college with a phone, maybe an iPod, a computer, possibly a printer or a lamp, and, if the dorm is not air-conditioned, a fan. Girls may also throw into their bags a blow dryer and hair straightener. All of this translates into a serious need for extra plugs. Do not forget a power strip with surge protection on a long cord. Some of these come with built-in USB port chargers, which are very handy.
12. Eating not Cooking
A mini-fridge is a real necessity and one piece of equipment that roommates need to discuss before move-in day. There may be space for only one so rent or buy, decide to share the cost or someone can own outright. Plan on helping your son or daughter get this in-house before you turn off onto the highway back home.
The summer before my eldest went to college, I had a powerful nesting urge, much like I did 18 years before when I prepared for his nursery. I poured over every dorm room essential, checklist and must haves at every store with a dorm shopping display.
This time my approach is completely different. I will buy two sets of x-long sheets and my daughter will pick out a comforter in a color that she loves. We have an egg crate mattress topper to add to the slim pad that is supplied by the school. She will pack her clothes, shoes and electronics.
Fortunately, she knows the dimensions of the under bed space in her dorm room so we will buy heavy plastic storage drawers to fit. They will double as luggage for our drive. She will bring a poster she can stick on the wall (no nails in dorm rooms) with photos of friends, family and her dog. We know where the closest CVS is for stocking up on the generic supplies. The stores all have college lists, but view them with a discriminating eye. Step stools? Paper towel holders? Lots of extra plastic boxes? Think twice.
Here is what will NOT make the cut:
- Alarm clock – there is an app for that.
- Furniture – there is no space for a futon or any furniture that’s oversized or purely decorative.
- Kitchen – no toasters or blenders, no dishes, cups or silverware that must be washed after use.
- Media storage – no need for CDs or DVDs, all media comes through her laptop.
- Pictures in frames – ditto, just flip open the laptop.
- Plants – guaranteed to die.
- Cleaning supplies – in our dreams, sadly, college kids don’t clean, so no vacuum, no mop.
- Desk Lamp – worth checking first if it is needed. Many rooms have adequate overhead light and computers are backlit.
- Composition books, binders, dividers – some of these have gone the way of the dinosaur. Let your kid start class and figure out his own study methods. Many kids prefer to take notes online and have far fewer paper needs than they did in high school. Don’t rush to waste money on a bunch of dead trees.
- Desk chair – be very careful here, most college provide a chair and you will just end up driving it back home.
- Printer – might also be an enormous waste of money. Many schools have networked printers available to students and assignment are often turned in online. Desks do not have much room and the floor is a filthy place for an expensive piece of electronic equipment.
Well worth considering:
- Shoe racks for the closet floor or hanging over the closet door. Shoe space is very limited and one like this, Organize It All Over-The-Door 18-Pair Wire Shoe Rack (17701)could be a huge space saver.
- Closet storage maximizers that hang from the closet bar provide a great place to put sweaters, sweatshirts or any bulky items.
- Fan if the weather/air conditioning suggest the need for it. Compact fans can do a big job in steamy dorm rooms, no need to buy a big one. Check out this one for your student: Vornado Flippi V6 Personal Air Circulator, Midnight – could be a lifesaver at the beginning of the year.
- Hooks that tape to the wall are handy for jackets, towels or jewelry to keep thing (wishful) off the floor.
- Small rugs are worth considering but be wary this may not get vacuumed all year. Small throw rugs that can go into the washing machine might work best.
- Shower caddy – first check what the bathroom situation is. If your child is using a large communal bathroom at the end of the hall, this might be a necessity. Here’s one we found that can be hung up to dry:Quick Dry Hanging Toiletry and Bath Organizer with 8 Storage Compartments, Shower Tote, Mesh Shower Caddy, Perfect Dorm, Gym, Camp & Travel Tote Bag, Purple. If the bathroom is close at hand and shared by few, a waste of money.
- Mattress pad and bed bug protector, money well spent! Popular brands can sell out of the twin XL size so don’t hold off on this purchase. Here’s one that seems to do it all: Twin XL (13-16 in. Deep) SureGuard Mattress Encasement – 100% Waterproof, Bed Bug Proof, Hypoallergenic – Premium Zippered Six-Sided Cover – 10 Year Warranty
- Trash can? Some rooms come equipped, others do not, worth checking first.
- Is your child a coffee/tea drinker? A small electric kettle or the Keurig K55 Coffee Maker, Black might be a big money saver if they are used to a couple of daily cups of caffeine.
- Towels – consider monograming or a distinctive color. Basic white are too easy to mistake for another’s towels.
One final thought about move in day. It will be crowded, it will be hot, and there will be lousy parking. You child will come face to face with her new roommate for the first time and you will also shake hands with your counterparts. Help her make up her bed and pull the sheets snug. Drive her to the nearest store for shampoo and her favorite body wash. Help her stock the mini fridge. Finally, slip her a letter telling her how proud you are of her and how this day is one you know she worked hard to achieve. Tell her you love her. Hug her tight and know that it is time for her to take it from here.
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