The admissions process is well underway. Many Seniors have received decisions from early action and early decision applications and they continue to navigate final, regular decision deadlines. The college counseling office where I work is bustling with students’ energy as they seek guidance or reassurance for their next chapter.
Keep children at the heart of the admissions process
For seniors and their parents and guardians, this process has been marked with an extra layer of uncertainty because race-conscious admission programs have ended, legacy admissions and early binding admissions at colleges and universities nationwide are under scrutiny, and the rollout of the new FAFSA form has complicated the financial aid application process.
As decisions roll in and families continue navigating decisions and deadlines, one constant should remain: a commitment to keep our students – your children – at the heart of the college admissions journey.
Build the scaffolding together
Each of our seniors is capable of greatness, no matter where they land for college. It’s essential to remember this and to remind our children that they are amazing people with bright futures.
Throughout this college application process, which is marked by unusual unpredictability, there are numerous areas where we can continue to bolster our students and help them achieve success.
6 ways to help your student achieve success
1. Break the big tasks down
Looking at the entire college application procedure as one big task can make the process feel overwhelming. Parents, guardians and college counseling teams can encourage students to process it into smaller, bite-size tasks. By creating a list of these tasks, students can feel satisfaction checking off the areas they complete, such as writing an essay or finalizing their college recommendations.
2. Manage check-ins to reduce stress
My students often express frustration when parents check in daily on their progress during college application season. Setting aside an agreed-upon, weekly time, such as Sunday dinner or a scheduled coffee break, to review progress from the past week and plan for the coming week can create structure and reduce anxiety.
If your student has completed their college applications, is awaiting early action decision, or has been deferred or waitlisted, confirm that they are following directions provided by their colleges. If admissions and financial aid applications are completed, it’s best to wait until the decisions from the college or university have been released to check-in.
3. Take advantage of the college counseling department
We’re here for one reason: to help students and parents/guardians navigate the application process. We’re eager to read essays and provide immediate feedback. We are also here to help you and your child walk through college decisions, whether it is a time of celebration or disappointment. Students digest disappointment differently, but we can help encourage them and remind them of the amazing people they are and the bright futures they have ahead.
4. Manage decisions alongside your child
As early decisions are released this is a time of excitement for many but also a season of disappointment for some students. It’s okay if your student needs a day or two to process the decision before they’re ready to talk to you or before they’re prepared to think about their next application.
Reminding your students that they are loved, regardless of college decisions, is critical. It’s also vital that you guard your own responses and are careful not to project your disappointment onto your child.
5. Help them navigate the changing FAFSA process
As you may have seen or heard, the 2023-24 Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FASFA) became available on December 30, 2023. Given the delayed release and technological difficulties families have experienced, we expect the release delay to be a bottleneck – while colleges will not hold off on admission decision, we anticipate a delay in the disbursement of financial aid awards.
You and your student must continue to follow the guidelines and directions that each college and university you are considering has set up. If this process feels overwhelming, break it into smaller tasks and continue those weekly check-ins to ensure every step is taken within the prescribed timeframe.
6. Let your students take the reins, preparing them for life beyond high school
As parents, it’s second nature to shield our children from risk and stress. But it’s essential to allow students to prepare for the possibility of failure, as college planning is also life planning. Remind them that we learn as much or more from our setbacks as we do from our triumphs. There are also additional ways to encourage independence this season before your child goes to college.
Assign them household chores such as laundry. Encourage them to seek part-time employment and save money for books and other expenses. Finally, talk about finances with your children and set expectations for the cost of borrowing and repayment terms.
Implementing these tips will help your students navigate the college application process with poise and certainty. It can also help you and your household to finish the academic year as a team, remembering that as you walk through each milestone, you are one step closer to the next exciting chapter.
Helping students feel proud of their efforts
Our goal should be for students to walk away from the college application process feeling proud of how they’ve spent their time and of the effort they’ve put in, regardless of the outcome – which is influenced by many factors beyond their achievements and in some cases even beyond their control.
Let’s choose to focus on the many areas that we, as parents and guardians, can influence, like helping students own and feel positive about the application process.
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