Introducing the new Style at Grown and Flown

We’re Pam and Mara, Grown & Flown’s new in-house style gurus. We are BFFs who are pretty much obsessed with style and trying to figure out how to use our clothes to help us feel more confident and at ease in the world. We’ve found that dressing has become more challenging over the past few years as our bodies and perspectives have changed – more difficult to find go-to outfits in our closet and more frustrating to shop for new clothes.


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 As long-time readers of G&F, we figured that we’re probably not the only ones feeling this way and we thought it could be more fun to explore this new world of style all together. So join us on our mission to find cool, effortless clothing that makes us all feel amazing and powerful at this very age.
Here’s a question that’s been popping up at Grown and Flown this spring:

What to wear for a Pre-Prom party? I’ve been so focused on my daughter’s dress and suddenly I realize I need to wear something too! I want to look nice since there’s tons of photos being taken, but don’t want to seem like I’m competing with my daughter’s shining moment.

Pam: So the two pre-prom parties I’ve been to were festive and pretty fancy. After all, the kids were dressed up, the boys in rented tuxedos (The Black Tux made my life so easy) and the girls in long gowns (Rent the Runway prom). Everyone took a lot of their own photos and the senior parents chipped in to have a professional photographer. Once the kids left for the prom, the parents all toasted with real drinks and celebrated. So, while the style emphasis was definitely on the kids, honestly I wanted to look good too.

This year, I’d go for a black jumpsuit with wide legs. I could dress it up for this event, and then run around with flats or cool sneakers all summer long. This J. Crew black wrapback jumpsuit from J Crew is great. The crew neck is flattering – trust me –  and the opening in the back is bra-friendly and shows just the nicest part of your back.

I am also loving this Paige wrap-front short sleeved jumpsuit. The inky blue is a nice alternative to black and the v-neck and drapey sleeves feel elegant and flattering.


For the dressier events, I’d definitely go with these sort of origami Vince Camuto suede bow mules, either in this hot Rio red or a neutral.


Gorgeous rose gold sandals from Stuart Weitzman – a simple sandal from the Nudist line. Block heel. Dress it up, or wear with vintage jeans?

How about these Tory Burch denim bow slides?


Or these Veja low-key Brazilian sneakers – made with fair trade canvas and rubber.

This Stuart Weitzman envelope leather clutch is both punk and elegant – my winning combination! It’s got metallic studs that line the perimeter and the front flap has this cool oversized knot. A splurge, but I’ll have this in my closet forever.

I’m always wearing hoop earrings and this season, I hear they are “in”. (So I guess I’ve been out for a while?). From Madewell – they’re light and won’t weigh down your earlobe.


I think just one coat of an Essie clean nail polish looks great. Their “Inside Scoop” color makes nails look healthier because it has a faintly blue undertone vs. peach (who knew?).

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About the Authors: Pam and Mara have been friends for over 20 years, with four boys and tons of vacations, birthdays, anniversaries, proms and graduations between us. We’ve always been a little obsessed with style and how we use clothes to help us feel attractive and self-confident. But over time, we’ve found that dressing and feeling great has become much more challenging. As long time readers of Grown & Flown, we wanted to take a different look at fashion and would love to pull all of you into this discussion.

We have really different styles. Pam grew up in cities like Rio de Janeiro and Mexico City, and has a more casual downtown approach to fashion. Mara’s a real minimalist – after spending a career in fashion/design, she’s realized that most of the time less is more. Mara on Pam: “When my kids were young, they called Pam “Shakira” because she has an infectious laugh, is able to rock camo like no one else, and those hips don’t lie”. Pam about Mara: “Mara’s a true minimalist. If she buys a pair of shoes, she throws an old pair out. She drives me a little crazy challenging me about ‘need’ vs. ‘want’.”

So join us as we venture forth into this new world of style. Come yell with us over the dressing room walls, or trade messages about that last pair of size 8 boots on sale online at Nordstroms. We want to feel comfortable and appropriate with our style choices so that we can face the world each morning with confidence and ease. We’re in search of cool, effortless style that makes us feel amazing and powerful at this very age.


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