What to Think About When Your Homeschooler Applies for College

Eight things to consider when your homeschooler applies to college
How homeschooler parents can think about college admission. (Shutterstock)

Do you find yourself looking back on your favorite moments of homeschooling? Especially now that you’ve got a teenager? Remember those moments when you snuggled up on the couch to read Harry Potter? Or you ran outside to catch freshly fallen snowflakes on your tongues? Their eyes were filled with wonder. Their minds were ready for more.

As our kids get older, their sense of wonder gets tempered by facts and formulas and outside influences. They lose the joy in experiencing something for the very first time.

I remember a phone call with my good friend, Cathy, many years ago. Her youngest kid was, I don’t know, 6th grade or so. Her older girls were off at college. My three boys were running around and laughing in the background as we chatted. Cathy mourned the good ‘ole days.

“There are no more giggles in my house,” she said. “Hold onto your giggles.”

There are no more giggles in my house, she said. I’ve never forgotten her words. And you shouldn’t either.

As you go through college admissions with your homeschooler, hold on tightly to your giggles. We get too caught up in facts and formulas and outside influences. Especially when it comes to the college search.

So, what’s the key to giggles during a totally stressful process? It’s simple.

 Keep an open mind. Imagine this…

How Does a Homeschooler Apply to College?

● You consider schools you’ve never heard of and find some awesome ones.

You go on college visits – even when they’re not a dream school – and you fall in love anyway.

● You start out thinking “large university in a city” and realize that “small liberal arts college surrounded by cornfields” is even better.

● You create your own rankings instead of relying on someone else’s.

● You add private schools to your list because you discover they’re less expensive than your state flagship.

● You start looking at schools that want your story rather than worrying about the schools that don’t.

● You view your homeschool documents as an opportunity to tell your homeschooler’s story instead of an obligation that limits it.

● You realize that there isn’t one perfect way to do this, but plenty of marvelous and meaningful ways.

So what happens if you refuse to open your mind and the college search doesn’t evolve into a wonderfully balanced list? Your homeschooler will burn out. Your relationship will suffer. You will have regrets. Sound a bit dramatic? I’ve seen it time and time again with families.

Do you ever hesitate to eat something new and strange? I love to cook and I’m constantly trying new recipes, new cuisines. Right now, I have chickpeas soaking for falafel. In the last few days, I’ve made a Mulligatawny-type soup with lentils, a chicken masala, and a (savory) cauliflower cake by one of my fave chefs, Yotam Ottolenghi.

 My kids not only devour my meals, but they also devour the adventure of not knowing what’s on the menu and tasting something new.

And that’s the way to approach this process. As an exploration. As an adventure. Pile into your car, buy those plane tickets, and enjoy the ride. Have long conversations. Turn up the music. And laugh a giggly laugh.

Explore schools in the middle of nowhere. Explore schools with a name you’ve never heard. Explore schools that are super low in the rankings.

Give your homeschooler only one rule during these visits – walk on each college campus with an open mind. Because every school has something to offer.

It’s easy for teens to shrug off a school as if they’ve just been given a plate full of cauliflower cake. But ask them to taste the goodness. What do they like about cauliflower cake? The custard-like texture? The cozy warmth? The nigella seeds?

Ask them to do the same with each school.

Teach your homeschooler to sift through their biases and preconceived notions of what a “perfect school” looks like. Not only does that help them figure out what’s important to them, but it’s also just dang more fun.

Taste the local cuisine, talk to the students and the faculty, traverse the town and its local hotspots. Savor the moments. Experience the wonder. Accept the surprises.

Because this process is about more than finding that dream school. It’s about exploring new places and new people and new parts of our relationship with our homeschooler.

It’s about holding onto those giggles.

G & F Parents: College Admissions and Affordability is a subscription Facebook group for families whose teens are going through the college admission process. Parents of both homeschoolers and students enrolled in high school can ask questions to a panel of 13 credentialed experts, each of whom have more than a decade of experience in helping families. Topics include how to develop a college list, prep for tests, write essays, discover schools with generous merit aid, and much more.

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Lisa Davis is on a mission to stamp out the conformity of college admissions. Join the Fearless Homeschoolers Movement where passionate and talented homeschoolers go through college admissions on their own terms, with their own rules. Lisa is the founder of Fearless Homeschoolers and a college admissions consultant exclusively for homeschoolers.

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