Grown and Flown Fall Primer – Rock & Roll Mama!

We’ve hit the dog days of summer when I start thinking ahead, with affection, for fall weather and fall style. The daily temp’s been hitting 90 and I’m sweating it out on crowded subway platforms on my way to work and meetings, not lounging on a breezy beach with a cold Corona.
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I’m starting to think about how nice it feels to put on a pair of jeans right around Labor Day when there’s suddenly a little chill in the air. The pants always hug a bit, not because I’ve gained weight (hopefully) but because I’m not used to wearing anything fitted or or tight after months of free and easy summer clothes. I also like the assist I get from having a soft scarf around my neck – like this Eileen Fisher tie-dyed scarf – there’s a reason why celebs are always photographed wearing a pop of flattering color that frames their face.

It all starts with great jeans – nothing fancy but I love the fit on these Madewell jeans. With a 9” rise, 2% stretchiness and magically placed pockets, they tuck it all in without pooching it all out and the higher rise makes them look current. The Japanese denim is distressed without looking fake, and the length of the destructed hem makes it work for sandals, sneakers and mules now and booties later, like Rag & Bone’s super comfortable Walker ankle boots. The Walkers come in a lot of great colors, but I like the lighter camel suede and love the way they look with white jeans.

I’ve been in tanks all summer, so this black Marfa Texas t-shirt feels like a nice change. It’s graphic and interesting without feeling like I’m trying too hard. This great basic tee from Alternative Apparel comes as a well-priced 3-pack and they’re made from organic and recycled materials.

A belt pulls things together. A leather belt always seems to be more expensive than I’d like, but you do wear them a lot and the cost is amortized over time (this is my sister Stacy’s logic and I’m a believer). I like Rachel Comey’s black belt with a brass buckle, it’s very simple but luxe. Or we could go basic with a perfectly wonderful Gap leather belt.

I’m a huge fan of the rock-star look, so I’ll layer on a cool black blazer, like this feminine and fitted Regent jacket from J. Crew, wool with a little bit of stretch. The collar stands up – it looks very hip. This Anine Bing Schoolboy Blazer also goes a long way – from hang-out to work.

If you need something that really gets you in the mood for autumn, I was in J. Crew and saw this green quilted jacket – cozy and warm. Despite my passion and preference for summer, it made me long for fall just a little bit.

When it’s rainy or cold or windy, you need a cute baseball cap like this Adidas original or this linen cap. Top it all off with cool new Ray Bans – it seemed like every celebrity at Wimbledon was wearing this shape sunglasses.

I’m going to buy these Sorel caribou boots before they sell out of every size, which seems to happen to me every year in the middle of a blizzard when I finally realize I really do need snow boots. If you live somewhere where rain is your big concern vs. snow, I think you will really stand out when you rock these motorcycle rain boots. By this age, we know that rain and snow boots can last FOREVER, so it’s worth it to buy something you love and may actually enjoy putting on in bad weather.

One last thing to consider…Mara and I went crazy for all the fun colored faux fur we saw at the end of last winter but never pulled the trigger. Now, we’ve both just ordered this cozy Teddy coat from Woven Heart – cute, affordable, and buying it early so we can wear through the fall and winter.  The description says it has the same plush texture as “your favorite childhood friend”.

Enjoy the rest of the summer and looking forward to hearing from you about your favorite fall fashion too!

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We are Pam and Mara, Grown and Flown’s new in-house style gurus. Based in Brooklyn, we’ve been friends for over 20 years, with four boys, many proms, graduations, beach vacations and birthday dinners between us.
Mara’s been living in jeans and t-shirts working in the fashion world in London, Milan, LA, and NYC, producing editorial and ad shoots for over two decades. Pam’s been suiting up for the corporate world as a chief marketing officer in the live entertainment/sports business.

We’ve always been a little obsessed with style and how we use clothes to help us feel attractive and self-confident. You’ll often find us yelling at each other over dressing room walls, or trading texts at midnight about that one pair of size 8 boots left on sale online at But over time, we’ve found that dressing and feeling great has become much more challenging. And that’s even more frustrating now that every moment has turned into a photo opp.

We want to feel comfortable and appropriate with our style choices so that we can face the world each morning with confidence and ease. We’re in search of cool, effortless style that makes us feel amazing and powerful at this very age. Please join us at Grown and Flown as we venture forth into this new world together, at our website and at Facebook and Instagram @thekoolestwomen.


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