We hope you have enjoyed Grown and Flown this year. We read far and wide and want to share with you 10 of our favorite pieces that did NOT appear on our site. Each piece offers insight and expertise and leaves its reader nodding her head in understanding. These are pieces that are so well written and so wonderful that we only wish we had had the chance to publish them ourselves.
Here goes, 10 of our absolute favorite posts this year!
Dr. Lisa Damour, The New York Times, Parents of Teenagers, Stuck Taking Out the Emotional Trash
When they were little they handed us their real trash and the problem was solved (for them!) Now they hand us their emotional trash and often it works the same magic. From our favorite psychologist, New York best-selling author and friend Lisa Damour.
Melissa Fenton, Scary Mommy, New High Schooler? Don’t Panic. It’s All Good.
There is nothing like a sensible been there, done that mom to help you through a new stage. When that mom is the witty, warm and wonderful Melissa Fenton, you are on your way.
Allison Slater Tate, Washington Post, Want your child to get into college and have a good life? Here’s how.
The panic around college admissions seems to rise every year. Other parents telling you to calm down is, frankly, not a lot of help. Allison Slater Tate interviewing the experts and bringing in her own well-reasoned sensibility, is. Our 2017 goal is to get our friend Allison to write for Grown and Flown on this very important topic. No pressure.
Susan Bonifant, Washington Post, Want to keep your grown kids in your life? Learn to be the impartial neighbor.
It is a tight rope act: trying to stay close, 21st century close, with our grown kids without getting in the way of their independent lives. This amazingly wise and well-written piece from our friend (and G&F writer) Susan Bonifant, doesn’t offer a checklist but rather an outlook that will help you stay close to those you gave birth to decades ago.
Julie Lythcott-Haims, Quartz, A former Stanford freshman dean shares the adult skills every 18-year-old should have.
My kids could not do all of these things at 18. Maybe they should have been able to, or not, but here is food for thought that went viral this year. Julie has a wonderful best-selling book out this year when you finish reading this and want more.
Catherine Newman, Motherwell, The Boring Tragedies Of Parenthood.
In writing so beautiful it is almost painful, Catherine Newman reminds us that it is our deep, existential, good fortune to watch our children walk out our door. In her words, “We are so lucky to have the children here to devastate us with their leaving.”
Jon Ralston, The Ralston Reports, The Child I Love
A father loves his daughter at first sight and now that she has transitioned, he speaks to his confusion, feelings of protectiveness, and love for his son.
Maria Shriver, Maria Shriver, Don’t Call Me an ‘Empty Nester’
We too, hate nothing more than the term “empty nest” but Maria Shriver perfectly answer so many of the questions parents have as they drop their youngest at college. Warm, wise words from a mom who sounds just like one of us.
Kim Clark, Money Magazine, Now That You’ve Done College Signing Day, Here’s All the Stuff You Need to Do Next
Once the euphoria over your kid getting accepted into college has died down, there are crucial next steps and paperwork to complete between now and the first day of school. Kim is one of the most knowledgable experts in the off-to-college space, so print this out and give to your soon-to-be freshman.
Susan Feinstein, Consumer Reports, Will You Be Able to Help Your College-Age Child in a Medical Emergency?
We get asked this question, or some variation, many times every year. Here is the place to get answers if you are wondering what to do about our 18-year-old and their health.