Why are Mommy Bloggers so Young, Clever and Inexperienced?

Mommy bloggers, mashable, Why are mommy bloggers so young, clever and inexperienced? And, we wonder, is taking parenting advice from a young mommy blogger a bit like getting directions to a far off, and difficult to reach locale, by someone who traveled part of the way there, once.

ABCnews.com recently published an article about disciplining kids and how to avoid spoiling them.  The author, a mother with a very young child, interviewed a number of parents whose children were all under 10. Each gave her considered advice on how her style of punishment had worked.  If you are still parenting on the easy side of adolescence, how do you know your method of discipline has worked?  Isn’t the test of parenting what happens as our children escape our grip?

Mashable has weighed in on the subject of mommy blogging.  According to their research, the average mommy blogger is thirty-seven, relatively wealthy and has children who have not yet hit middle school.  Their claim:  Fourteen percent of all moms contribute to or read blogs and 89% of those have children between the ages of 2-11.  The average household income of a mommy blogger is $84,000 or $14,000 above average and while they are likely to be any place on the political spectrum, they are, according to Mashable, more socially conscious and more likely to volunteer their time than non-blogging moms.

Why don’t older moms, those with teens and young adults, blog more?  Why aren’t these been-there-done that moms sharing their wisdom with those just starting out on the journey?

Well, we have no idea why, but as we are moms with kids in high school and college, we are going to speculate:

Blogging involves getting up close and personal in social networking

It requires that you be fluent in Pinterest and Twitter and Facebook.  It requires a familiarity with WordPress or Blogger or Tumblr and if you really want to do it right, SEO, CSS and HTML.  To younger women this is meat and potatoes, the stuff their social lives have been made of since they were in high school.  They got onto Facebook on their thirteenth birthdays and they never got off. For those of us a touch older, joining Facebook was a real decision.

Big kids are not as cute

They just aren’t. Cuteness peaks at three and pretty much goes downhill from there.  So if your youngest is, say, fourteen or eighteen, there is not much cuteness left in your house and this will quickly be revealed in any photos included on your blog.  Older kids are striking in their youthful beauty but this just doesn’t compare to an adorable toddler.  If you don’t think I am right, check out your Christmas card photos this year.

Little kids, little problems

Little kids, little problems, big kids…and the cuteness isn’t just physical.  Little kids say and do cute things. They come into our rooms at night and make adorable excuses to get into our beds.  When big kids come into our bedrooms at night it is because they have to tell us such bad news that it cannot wait until morning.  In the morning sharing this big bout of bad news with our blog readers is the last thing we feel like.

Alarm bells

Blogging can involve over sharing, deliberate or otherwise, and to a generation raised on worrying about their “permanent record” it sets alarm bells ringing. To those over forty-five or fifty, splaying your personal life across the internet can look hopelessly self-indulgent and potentially damaging to your or your spouse’s career.  To those under life’s halfway mark, it is entirely unremarkable.

No bed of roses

Or, just maybe, it hasn’t all turned out a bed of roses.  It is much easier to blog about parenthood when it is all sitting out in front of you, a pristine panorama of possibilities where the mistakes have not been made and the missteps are so small that they are still undetectable. With older kids our mistakes and misjudgments have been revealed and sometimes it is a glare we just don’t want to stare into.

Tread quietly

If it has turned out great, and the kid is in college or graduating, or living with a great guy, or on the verge of marriage or holding down a great job…wise moms, with the full knowledge that it might not have been this way think, there by the grace …and tread quietly.

Older moms

Moms over forty-five may have never read a blog, or if they have, they may think that bad language and ridiculing family members are de rigueur.  Our demographic gets restaurant suggestions from real live people and the newspaper is still delivered and sitting soggy in our driveway—are we really ready to give parenting advice online?

Parenting never ends

You might have thought that young moms blog more because they think a lot more about parenting than those who have been at it for a while, but that would be wrong.  Parenting, we have discovered, never ends.

The wisdom of parenting resides in the hearts and minds of mothers (and fathers) who have made the journey and we hope they will share this bounty with those just starting out.

Time is on the side of the older mommy blogger if for no other reason than those young trend setting, trailblazing young mommy bloggers, the ones who established this fascinating industry through dint of hard work, brains and inventiveness…with the march of time…they are coming our way.

Comments

  1. I am an old mommy blogger with kids 21 and 26 and this post was so true, so true, so true (did I say it was so true). I am blogging even though I am not sure what the heck a lot of the stuff you mentioned re: social networking is and I have refused to be on Facebook for a number of reasons – the first of which I could never say no to someone who wanted to be my friend.
    I enjoy blogging – but am kind of doing it semi-professionally and not angst-ridden (at least not too much of the time–a little angst keeps the juices flowing).
    Love your blog btw.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      You did say it was true and I am glad you thought so. Thank you, thank you for loving our blog. If you join Facebook let us know so that we can be your friend.

  2. This post hit home for me. I have met so many younger, affluent mommies who think they have it all figured out and have no idea of the curve balls they will have to hit as their kids grow older. They are preoccupied with raising perfect, accomplished children and so earnest about doing it the “right” way, as if painstaking parenting will lead to kids who never have any issues. As my kids aged it was a humbling experience, because I realized I did not have all the answers…in fact, there were times that I thought I sucked at mothering! Yet they turned out great despite my mistakes.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Caught up with an old friend this morning and we recalled how our twentysomethings were the same EXACT people we took to nursery school almost two decades ago. Far from controlling who they became, I wonder if we had any impact, their personalities seemed set from such an early age.

  3. Karen says:

    I love this post! With many of the same thoughts, I stopped blogging a few years ago (on the now defunct trueslant.com) as my boys approaches middle school. And also with the same thoughts, I started blogging again recently. It is harder to write about raising teens (mine are 12 and 14). Privacy is crucial and there is much I won’t write about. I also don’t publish photos of my kids. But carefully mining experiences in these challenging years to explore issues and raise questions that so many are grappling with can start a great conversation. You are right; all those young bloggers are heading our way. We will be ready with buckets of hard-earned wisdom.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      It is a huge balancing act after your kids learns to read. Too circumspect and the writing can feel generic and dull, too revealing and you have forgotten exactly whose life it is. Wonder how it will feel for kids to read what we have written years from now? If you ever revive your blog, please let us know.

  4. I can’t tell on my iPhone if my name above clicks through to my website (oh god I just branded myself a middle aged blogger) so here it is in case it did not: http://www.theblunderyears.com

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Ahhh the joys of middle age…

  5. Hear, hear. This is one of the reasons I started blogging. Because I was still a mom. Of course we all are. But there was such a lack of voices for the issues and joys and storms we face at the empty nest or soon to be empty nest stage of motherhood. You’re so right – kids have bigger issues as they reach young adulthood, and young moms aren’t too interested in what we, at this stage, have to say. And that’s okay – they’ve built a nice community for themselves and they simply aren’t our demographic. I’m glad to find others like you out there at similar crossroads sharing the conversation.

    Great post.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      We are really glad that you found us…thank you.

  6. I’ve wondered about this, too. One of my thoughts is that Mothers with babies and very young children can feel isolated (I know I did) and writing a blog and connecting with people online is something that can be done during naptime or until they figure out how to reconcile career/motherhood.

    I second what Karen, above, said, too. I am wary of posting about my older children (10 and 12). The 4 year feels like fair game.

    Also, as you expressed, the longer we’ve been mothers, the more slices of humble pie we’ve eaten. Young (new) Mothers are perhaps full of great intentions but may not have had to deal with some of the issues yet that are harder to write about: making mistakes, conflict, letting go. Some do, but I know as I move on in my parenting, I admit I know less and less and I’m just figuring this out as I go along. I feel more confident, but more vulnerable, too. We sure could use more voices on the topic of parenting older children.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      You are so right about the notion of being isolated. Had my first two kids in cold climates in the dead of winter…not exactly conducive to getting out. If there had been mommy blogs I would have been one happy mommy. During some of the most stressful times it would have been nice to chat with moms outside of my world on topics from picky eating to school hating to college admissions. Hope we can do some of that here!

    • Thanks for pointing me towards this post! I agree completely – part of blogging is a way of connecting when you feel isolated. That starts to end as your kids enter school and you find a community. I also think that all the new scary problems you reach out for help on, seem to become more manageable as you get older. Finally, our children’s privacy becomes more important when they’re old enough to read your blog themselves (and probably find it via Google!).

      What I do see is a lot of popular mom bloggers evolving or completely changing their blogs once their kids come of age. They become more interested in world issues, politics, environmental issues, education–still through the eyes of a parent. I know my own blog has evolved to a large degree in that way. I remember Citymama going from a mom blog to a parenting blog; MotherGoosemouse going from a mom blog to JulieMarsh.com, a series of largely editorial columns on big issues.

      Still I think that if you look at the top bloggers by many accounts, they’re not young and inexperienced by any account. Mashable’s research seems to support that. I do however think that the term “mommy blogger” makes us all sound like we’re 18. Which is why I don’t use it and I don’t identify with it.

      Thanks for a lot of food for thought!

  7. janna0531 says:

    I loved your post! I am not certain in which category I fall into. I am a 35 year old mother of 5 kids, ages 17, 14, 12, 5, and 1. Although I’m only 35, I have been a mother for 17 years. I have made a TON of mistakes and have many regrets. However, the mistakes I made with my older children, have helped me to be a better parent with my younger kids. I started blogging just recently, as a way to vent and release all of the thoughts and frustrations that come into my head as I deal with every day life with my 5 kids. Blogging offers me the opportunity to write about my thoughts, and feelings and hopefully help someone else going through the same. I do write about my older children, and have gone to them on two occasions to make sure they knew what I was writing and agreed with the way I was portraying the issues. Both instances, my children gave me their approval, and it opened the door for us to discuss these issues more openly. Blogging about teenagers can be a bit touchy, but can be done as long as we (parents) are open and honest with them, and give them the opportunity to tell their side and give their opinion.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Seventeen years…experienced mom, no doubt. It sounds like you are handling this tricky issue with loving care. It is truly uncharted territory with regards to parenting with issues no one has ever faced before. Thank you for your very thoughtful comment.

  8. Everything you said was spot-on!

    My youngest is starting college soon and we have three older kids – two in community college, one graduated and gainfully employed – but the picture has not always been pretty, and there haven’t always been things to brag about, oh, and the older I get, the less qualified I feel to give advice.

    When I began blogging a year ago and began reading more blogs, I began to wonder if anyone over 40 blogged. I’m finally finding those bloggers, one at a time, and love the fact that they don’t write like they have all of life’s answers and have parented perfectly.

    And, yes, I always smile when I read a mommy blog and see parenting advice given by a mommy whose oldest child is 5.

    Thanks for such a great post.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      And thank you for finding us. What is the name of your blog? We want to follow you.

    • I think we all have something to learn from one another. Maybe a mother with a five year-old can’t give advice to a mom of a high schooler about kindergarten, but she can sure help the mom that’s a year or two behind her and looking for some reassurances.

      I learn from my kids every day. So why not from other parents? However long they’ve been doing it.

  9. Emily Cappo says:

    I loved this post and agree with everyone’s comments above that all of what you said was so so so true! I am an over-45 mom who is about to enter the blogging world with a blog about raising 3 boys, two of whom are teens (one in middle, one in high school). One of the reasons I want to start my blog is because I felt there weren’t enough blogs out there targeting the parents of teens. My blog is not quite up and running yet and the main reason is that I still can’t figure out what they heck I am doing. I know what I want to write about, but I can’t seem to get the blog to look and function the way I want…I need a young mommy blogger’s help, I think! I too worry about preserving my kids’ privacy. I don’t plan to ever post their photos on my blog and I don’t plan to use their real names. The younger mommy bloggers don’t even think twice about exposure. Interesting stuff, for sure. Even though I am not an empty-nester yet, I love your blog (Hello Mary Dell!) and recommend it to my empty-nester friends. Keep the great posts coming!

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Protecting their privacy but writing for a wide audience is a diificult balancing act. When you are up and running send us your link so that we can get your posts. Good luck with three boys it is a wonderful journey.

  10. Nina says:

    Eeks, I’m going to chime in as the first young mommy blogger here. I do notice that there’s a plethora of young bloggers, or rather, moms of younger kids, than older kids. Sure, part of that is that the younger moms can be more tech savvy. But I think a lot of it has to do with the mom craziness that starts with birth and sort of tapers off as the kids grow older.

    I think the difference in ages are also generational; I respect my mom for her many years in motherhood but also differ with her on some of our parenting techniques. That doesn’t mean that she’s not a valuable resource, and that’s why I LOVE hearing from moms of older kids on my blog because they offer a wealth of experience that I’ve just barely dipped my toe in.

    I think young moms can write about what we learn (I know I certainly do) but we should also understand that so much of that can change, and I can find myself completely disregarding advice I had doled out down the line.

    In the smaller things, young and older moms can differ: there are always trends to be followed, and worries that abound. But the overarching definition of motherhood I think spans across all ages and generations.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      We are so glad you posted here– thank you. Two thoughts. I thought the early years were crazy but once I had dealt with teen parties, competitive sports and college admissions I felt like I had experienced crazy on a whole new level. Second, you are so right to point out that trends change and things are done differently but a mom who is a few steps ahead of you in parenting, not a generation, can be a huge help. I always found that the moms whose youngest child was friends with my oldest was a huge help. What is the name of your blog??

  11. Lisa Kaplin says:

    I am a 50-year-old mommy blogger with three children aged 19, 14, and 12. http://smartwomeninspiredlives.com/#!/lisas-blog/. I feel that I’m so much more confident as a mom but even more realistic as my family matures. I was a bit judgmental and idealistic in my younger days!

  12. Oops, I hit return too quickly. I agree with the isolation factor and how nice it is to connect with other mothers. I would have really enjoyed the mommy blogging concept as a young mom. I also live in a very homogenous community where most of the women had no desire to work and I desperately needed to work (for sanity sake). It would have helped me feel so much better to have connected with other women like myself.

    I love your concept and your blog was excellent. Best of luck and I look forward to reading more articles like this one.

  13. Great post! Made me smile knowingly (just like I do when my much younger friends tell me things about parenting, as if I didn’t know anything about how to handle preschool nap time issues…!)
    I think that we “mature mother” bloggers are like the wise women of the village, you know? WE know those youngsters are going to have to deal with the first missed curfew and the prom date dramas one fine day, so we let them feel secure until then.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Thank you, how nice if someone could think of all of us moms as “wise women”.

  14. I’m mum to two 20-somethings, and I blog. I’m under 45, and just as computer savvy as the next mum. My blog is about my life after school lunches, mum’s taxi & kids sport, and with one child flown the coop, my posts are only occasionally about my kids, mostly because I am conscious of what I write about them publicly!

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Leave the name of your blog here, we would love to read it and I imagine others would as well.

  15. Finding this blog is great. I am a 47yo mom of 1 x 20yo daughter. I have battled to find blogs by Moms of older kids. While I love to hear about what Moms with littlest are doing, I really wanted to find some older Moms who may be able to help me feel like I am not alone.

    Like others have said, there isn’t much cute about a grown up child and some issues are best not blogged about.

    So glad for the opportunity to connect with other Moms of older children so a huge BIG thank you.

    Have a great day – love, hugs and positive energy.
    Me

  16. This is a great post — with lots of information I was just wondering about the other day, so thank you so much! I’m an older Mom blogger — but not really a “Mom Blogger.” I blog mostly about my writing life and writing in general — I actually disagree about older kids not being interesting to write about (mine are 26 and 20 yo) BUT it really isn’t “my stuff” to write about — and I also want to keep my private stuff, well, private. I think it’s one thing to write about my experience as a mother (which I sometimes do) but I also think there’s a limit to how much of myself or my family I want to expose on the Internet. That said, I LOVE blogging — it’s inspired my fiction writing and I love the people I’ve met!

  17. My “kids” are 19 and 27. I stopped blogging about discipline, expectations and consequences because so many young moms were ticked off at me. I was a “mean mom” who added chores instead of taking away xbox. Our kids didn’t have xbox, Playstation or anything like them. I was the “mean mom” who sent the kids outside to play face to face with their friends. “I’m bored” was not said in our house often because I heard it as “I’d like to clean out the fridge, please,” or “I’m going to muck the chicken coop.”

    I could blog about my girls now but it wouldn’t be very interesting to most readers. The 27 year old is returning to college this fall for a career change. She’s going to marry a wonderful man in the fall of 2013. My 19 year old earned a 4.0 last semester. She’s a biology/wildlife biology (are you still awake? not thrilling, right?) major. She’s a semester ahead so at the end of her first semester in her second year, she’ll be a junior instead of half way through her sophomore year. See what I mean? They’re beautiful, accomplished women but they don’t do cute little kid things that keep moms coming back to read.

    And after 27 years of motherhood, I was more than ready to get back to an identity that doesn’t have the names Mom, K’s mom and T’s mom attached. It’s good to be just Robin again.

  18. Nina says:

    My blog is Sleeping Should Be Easy (http://sleepingshouldbeeasy.com)

  19. a perfectly written piece. lots of food for thought. i remember being around older moms and thinking how different parenting older children seemed to be. i think we are humbled as children grow older and the magnitude of the undertaking becomes apparent, humbled in the good sense of the word. the fact is that we become aware of the clock ticking, moving us toward the moment they are going to be on their way and that colors the way we parent and the way we communicate with each other-in person and on a blog. (see, as an older mom, to me they still are two separate things.) maybe in the way that having a baby changes you in ways you never anticipated, there is another rite of passage as children move toward young adulthood. In retrospect it seems like two separate stages of motherhood. maybe, you can only really share that with other moms who are making that same passage just as the younger moms share their discoveries and feelings with each other. we older moms seem to be drawn to blogging for very different reasons: to fill in a space, to try something new. we’re a little awkward and a little uncertain. but as you said, they’re marching our way, and knowing what we do of what lies ahead, the least we can do is keep the light on.

  20. BEAUTIFULLY written! Thank you. I’ve already re-read it twice. (My only child is heading off to college in nine days…)

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Good luck, and thank you, such a big moment. Parenting has two big transitions, when they come and when they go…this is no less of a change in our lives.

  21. Been out of town with my “baby” who started 8th grade today so I’m behind on my blog reading. LOVE this and it reminded me of a guest blog post I wrote a few years ago about parenting teens when my oldest 3 were in high school. I’ve always loved the wisdom that comes from moms who were ahead of me in parenting years. Knowing moms who tell the truth and don’t sugarcoat the hard parts have always been my favorite mom friends. Now, with 3 in college, support from my wise mom friends is more valuable than ever.

    You’re right…they are coming our way. I’m sure we can all offer support to this new generation of mom bloggers as their babies and toddlers become tweens and teens. Thanks for the great post – I’m really enjoying the blog!

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Thank you! Moms a few years older are always the greatest teachers and comfort. Three in college, oh my, you need to blog about that!

  22. Wow! I so loved this post! Thank you!!

    I am a mom of a new 14 year old, and soon to be 12, 9 and 7 year olds, and I agree with everything you said! Parenting the younger years as a piece of cake compared to now.

  23. Crista says:

    I adore your blog and find it very relevant to my life as the mom of a 16 yr old. She’s our one and only. You are spot on so often, but especially here. I share her antics on Facebook but I’m careful with what I share and anything she finds objectionable is deleted. I have to respect her wishes, too.

  24. I thought this post was going to bash mommy bloggers…which I don’t feel it did (some commentors might have but I didn’t read all of those). I liked your angle that more older moms need to offer their advice!

    • Grown and Flown says:

      I don’t want to bash young mommy bloggers, I just want to see more moms who have seen the entire landscape of childhood post their wisdom. This is a fluke in time, when young moms are our age, the wealth of their experience will be in the online world, but for now more of us need to jump on board.

  25. Well as a 45 year old blogger who is a mom, I don’t really write about my kids. While I blog quite a bit, my topic isn’t my children. I don’t really identify with the term *mommy blogger* for that reason. My teens are also less willing to have cute pictures of them shared on my blog & my social media channels although I do when they say it’s OK. I think when moms are younger, their children are more likely to be a huge focus of what they write about because everything is a first – first tooth, first birthday, first day of school, etc. Plus, toddlers and babies make adorable pictures & not so much teenagers. Plus, it’s not as much fun to parent a teenager as it is a baby or younger child. Enjoyed the article. Thank you!

  26. Marie DeWolfe says:

    What a wonderful post! I am the mother of 4. My oldest, at 26, is in college working on a degree in physics, my 2nd, at age 23 just got married in March and will be giving me my first grandbaby in Feb!! (Can you tell i’m just a tiny bit excited over that one??? ), my 3rd will be 16 this year and getting his drivers license, in order to provide me with MORE gray hairs, but he’s a good kid, and my baby just turned 14, and is in full hormonal gear like all teen girls, driving me batty!! This, too, shall pass, soon I HOPE! lol. I’m not sure what happened to the little instruction book, that was supposed to be tied to their toe at birth, went, mine were all missing this vital book at birth, so we winged it as best we could. We did eat a lot of humble pie, made mistakes, and all in all…it all turned out pretty good. And the one thought to always keep in mind..”There, but for the grace of God, go I”, it’s something I try to always remember.

    • Grown and Flown says:

      Thank you, thank you. Many congrats on the grandbaby, please post pictures when the time comes! Being a mom for a while is very humbling…you got that one right. Do the same thing with two different kids…two different results. It is not hard to wonder what is parenting and what is just inborn. We are so glad that you came by, many thanks for sharing your insights.

  27. Jo Heroux says:

    Hello! So glad I dropped by. I am the Grandma type…my kids are in their 40’s and I have grand-kids who are cute enough to stick into my blog now and then. LOL
    I agree we hold some invaluable advice, problem is, no one wants to hear what we think because we didn’t raise our kids in this day and age and those old fashioned right and wrong techniques just won’t work.

    SURPRISE!!!

    The old actions=consequences way of educating your children does work. Bailing them out at every turn and making excuses because they are so gifted doesn’t. That’s pretty much it in a nutshell.

    Great blog and so very well done.

  28. My daughter will turn 34 in a couple of weeks. (Yikes!) I do mention her in my work (personal one but sometimes also in my day jobs — MSN Money’s Frugal Cool blog and the Get Rich Slowly site). In those cases, though, I’m talking about how proud I am of how well she’s dealt with adversity, or citing something she wrote on her own site (I Pick Up Pennies).

    I see several reasons for young moms to blog:
    –To share the adorable things their kids do
    –To ask for help from other moms
    –To brag a little (yes, some of them do — “look at how perfectly I’m doing this!”)
    –To save their sanity

    And I agree that some of them won’t know what hit them when the curve balls come their way. “What happened to my cosleeping/attachment-parented/child-led-weaned/organic-food-fed little angel? Who is this big slouching stranger who yells at me to get out of his/her life? Did I mess up somehow? I did everything I was supposed to do!” Here’s hoping that their blogging buddies will be there for them with support rather than subtle or overt condemnation.

  29. Caryn/The Mid Life Guru says:

    While my blog is called, “The Mid Life Guru,” I’ve had several young moms ask me if it is OK for them to follow me, because they want to learn from me and my experience. That is the ultimate compliment and I welcome them with open arms.

    • Ditto! Lately I’ve had some people (online and in person) mention wanting to ask my opinion or thanking me for sharing what I’ve learned. That’s startling moment, but ultimately very heartwarming — and humbling. Yet another reason to love the Internet: It lets us help one another.

  30. Brigid Dorman says:

    I’m an expectant first-time mother and my husband and I have all of this ahead of us. On the road to parenthood, we’ve been inundated by well-intended advice on parenting, oddly enough, from mainly brand new parents and those without children. Strange? I think it fits with the idea that the least experience we have in a given area, the more we have to say about it because we’re only dealing with the most visible and most simple problems at that level.

    Although I’ve read a number of the new mommy blogs and they are brilliant sources of information about the early years, I sometimes finish reading as a bundle of worries. Am I drinking too much caffeine, bonding with my unborn child yet, will I damage my baby by putting him in disposable diapers/use formula, should I be concerned if I haven’t placed him in baby sign language classes? I have to say that I can’t get enough of the been-there-done-that-mommy tales. I get a huge sense of relief from the long vision of child-rearing. Life is a long journey with many different choices and people become more complex as they age, and I’m terribly grateful for the advice of those who have gone ahead.

  31. I LOVE this post…just love it…

  32. Lin Lin says:

    The article was well written but seems to be that just by being an older mom , some ( not all) of you believe it makes you automatically wiser and you view the younger moms as “so young and ignorant”. I am middle ground mom so I believe I can say something on both aspects. Instead of speaking in a belittling and arrogant way the “older moms” need to share their knowledge lovingly or stop complaining that the “younger moms” are trying to help the even less experienced moms to be. The true bottom line is the motivation behind it. Seems like most comments above are just mad because the “younger moms” are threatening them in some way. Where’s the wisdom in that?

  33. I am an older blogging mom, with two teens. I began blogging almost three years ago, and the difference and joy that has come into my life from blogging makes me want to encourage everyone, of every age, to blog.
    There is a place for community online that makes the business of our lives one where we can squeeze friendship in when we have a few mins here and there.

    BLogging has brought opportunities my way, that I never imagined for myself.

    I meet people that inspire and encourage me, and I feel that there’s a chance to try and achieve my dream: to be published.

    It’s a wonderful opportunity and I am so very grateful for it.l

  34. I so totally relate to this. First off, I am connected with many younger mom bloggers in their 20’s and 30’s and 40’s. I am am proud to say I am a 52 year old blogger who found a new career through blogging and now teach people in midlife how to get online. Carrie Ferguson, of Tiki Tiki blog shared your blog with me. My blog is a bilingual blog about inspiration. It is not a mom blog, but I occasionally write about how my only son (now 19 in college) is an inspiration to me. I would write more stories about him, my experiences as a single mom since he was 2, and post proud pictures of him at every stage of his now manhood, but he doesn’t let me. There are a few posts that he allows me to, like in his graduation from college or when I participated in a blog carnival for Univision for education.( I was proud that he is a motivated teen at college.) I showed him after the fact when I sneaked that blog post in, but when he saw the comments and the positive message he was OK with it;) And now that he is in college and out of the house most of the time, I am a semi empty nester and thrilled that I found blogging and connecting with so many amazing communities online. So cheers for your voice! There are many of us. I embraced technology at a time where my life went chaotic in 2008 as a realtor in Miami and out of a job and never looked back:D Looking forward to connecting here.

  35. So glad you found us and many thanks to Carrie Ferguson for mentioning us to you. I think bloggers of our vintage are becoming more common, so glad you left your blog address here for readers to see. You bring up a great issue, kids reading our blogs. BlogHer had a wonderful session on this…with tons of interesting views on the subject. Thanks so much for commenting here.

    • Well, it is not really that my son reads my blog. I show him when I write something about him. I just think that teens are uncomfortable with it, especially after 16 yrs old. It just embarrasses him. So that is why I am careful about what I write and ask for his permission when I do. Need to have peace at home;)

  36. And then they are 30 and 33 and you want to write about them now, about how much you love them and how wonderful they are, but they’d kick your butt if you put them out on the internet like that. And then there are the step kids, and sometimes you need help and want to write about it but they read you and would take offense.

  37. Yes, yes, yes! These are all thoughts I’ve had as a mommy blogger. I’m young enough to be tech and social media savvy, but I had my kids so young, I had two in college by the time I was 40.
    Baby and toddler brands won’t touch me, because although I used their products for years or even decades, I don’t have an adorable little one to take a picture of with the stuff.
    I feel like brands think I should hop on an ice floe and chisel away at the edge.
    Also, younger mothers sometimes don’t want to know about what the future holds.

  38. Carpool Goddess says:

    I’m a 40 something parenting/lifestyle blogger (isn’t it neat how you just focus on the ’40’ and not the ‘something’) with two kids in college. I’m hesitant to call myself a mommy blogger, since I rarely share anything personal about my kids (their choice). I’m so glad I started blogging two years ago instead of when the kids were little. It would have been a huge distraction. Sometimes I read the young mommy blogs and think how did I survive all that.

  39. My very favorite “case-in-point” example that you cited was the “why our kids wake us up” looks very different to a mom-of-older kids than it does to a mom-of-younger kids.

    I tread lightly.

    We’ve had a brush with some real-life struggles, and when I see other mothers struggling with larger issues, I always think, “There, but for the grace of God, go I”. And I might, yet. Who knows what the future holds?!

  40. “If you are still parenting on the easy side of adolescence, how do you know your method of discipline has worked? Isn’t the test of parenting what happens as our children escape our grip?” This is one reason why (if I were raising a small child today) I’d be interested in reading not only the younger mommy bloggers but also benefiting from the advice and insights of those who survived the hard side of adolescence. Tremendous observations here, and wise commentary for all bloggers, regardless of their subject. Wonderful post, essential blog. Thank you!

    • Marci, thank you for verbalizing my thoughts. I am a mom of little ones and think you are right on with your comment.

  41. ‘With older kids our mistakes and misjudgments have been revealed and sometimes it is a glare we just don’t want to stare into.’ Awe, that makes me sad but appreciate the honesty. Glad to find you through @clearlykristal and look forward to learning from you both!

    • A bit sad but we are so so so happy if our experiences are of value to you. Thank you so much for leaving us your thoughts. ANd thank you to Kristal!

  42. OK, let’s throw a curve ball in all these assumptions about women in certain generations, women with children and child-free women (which is myself):

    I’ve been participating in an Internet women’s cycling forum for the past 5 years. We have a blend of women who have children and others who don’t. There are mothers who rarely talk/blog about being a parent. It’s just not something they focus on.

    I would suggest blogging for a woman with children, that it’s more about whether or not she has found a passion /another identity outside of her family life. The world of blogging opens up in a radically different way when one isn’t always blogging just about parenting. (though I realize that consumes the energy of many people on this blog thread).

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