A Hotel Room of My Own at BlogHer14

I feel like I should preface this with telling you how much I love my husband and kids but am going to skip straight over that and tell you how much I love staying in a hotel room without them.  I can’t wait to check into the Fairmont where I’m not having a roommate at BlogHer14.  A hotel room of one’s own is a little lick of luxury that does not happen very often. But when it does, I savor every minute.

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What’s so great?

There are no distractions, none.

I cannot empty the dishwasher, listen to someone’s problem or wonder why there is no OJ left when I remembered putting it in the cart…thirsty teens, left it at the checkout?  I can’t throw in a load of laundry or worry if the dog was limping like that last week.  I can just think…just me, my thoughts, it is like a spa for the soul.

I love waking up in a strange room.

I love a strange bed, different linens and an unfamiliar view out the window.  I moved constantly throughout my life until my kids were in middle school. Since then life has been geographically stable, so I love this taste of earlier days and the novelty that goes along with it.

I love the spotless bathrooms

and exploring new toiletries…I know they come with the cost of the room, but it always feels like small personal gifts to me even when I know I can buy the same things at CVS. If they are good, I swipe them.

A bathroom to myself.

I shared bathrooms with brothers, roommates and then, a husband, and while I am not complaining, a bathroom to myself, even for a single night or two, is certainly one of life’s little luxuries.

I love watching TV in bed.

In our home we only have one TV, in a valiant effort to control my children’s watching habits and to encourage all of us to read in bed (yes, I know this was pre-internet.)  TV in bed feels like a guilty pleasure. During  BlogHer ’13, I will wield the remote control, never having to share it with child or roommate.

Room service.

Need I say more.  Not sure why I can’t get this at home?

Almost every morning for eighteen years I have awakened one or more of my kids and my husband for school, jobs, sports…whatever.  I love setting my alarm and then walking into my sons’ room and softly calling their names to begin our day.  But in my hotel room I have only myself to worry about and for a night, that sounds just about right.

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  1. says

    oh I love it too!!! I just spent 2 nights in NYC (a gift from my parents) on my own and it was great. I can’t make it to this conference and I am sooooooo bummed but I am planning my next get away by myself. Enjoy

  2. says

    I know that feeling – and, for now I don’t even have to go to a hotel room to get it because A is working away from home and K is out more than she is in !!!
    Enjoy every single minute of it and relish the luxury because all too soon you will be back in the reality of missing / finished groceries, sharing a bathroom and a familiar bed !
    Have the best time !

  3. Carpool Goddess says

    I’m dreaming of my own room too. BlogHer here I come. Heaven.

  4. says

    So very jealous of your hotel oasis right now! All of it is a guilty pleasure that every mom could use every now and then!

  5. says

    Sounds like paradise! Now let me head back to stare at those perfectly made beds that you didn’t have to make. Enjoy the peace.

  6. says

    I actually tried to find a roommate for BlogHer, primarily to help curb expenses. However, the closer it gets; the more I’m starting to feel the same things you alluded to in this post! Let’s both enjoy no domestic responsibilities for a short while!

  7. Emily says

    Couldn’t agree more with you about that hotel room and it’s the MAIN reason I’m bummed I won’t make it to BlogHer this year. Enjoy your solitude!

  8. says

    It is definitely a luxury we take for granted… oh how I wish I knew then what I know now!

    See you at BlogHer! (Where I’ll be staying with a friend on the outskirts of town to save moulah….)

  9. says

    A bathroom of my own is my dream. I would take a small, 50’s style bathroom of my very own to a big luxury master bath that must be shared with my husband any day.

  10. says

    Oh, what a glorious luxury! I attend an annual conference for which my employer will pay for my hotel, so long as I share. I forfeit their kind offer, and pay for my own room so that I can enjoy those very things you are looking forward to.

  11. says

    Agree 100%! And not only do I swipe the little toiletries, I put them away everyday so I get new ones each time housekeeping comes. I have no shame.

    And I agree, room service is the best.

  12. Estelle says

    I know what you mean! I have a last-minute roommate this year to defray costs and get a little company (I’ll have downtime when I sleep:)), but I am going to be on my own for three and a half days and I will relish those moments. It takes a lot of scheduling to be able to leave for that amount of time, so I will honor the work that went into it and get as much as I can out of the experience. Looking forward to meeting you as well.

  13. says

    A “spa for the soul” ~ love it! This is one of the things I am most excited about for BlogHer, too! Everything you mentioned, the perfectly clean bathroom, someone to make the bed, and reading and watching TV in bed! Everyone’s talking about the parties, and I’m thinking, why don’t people want to treasure the rare gift of being in a quiet hotel room all to themselves for a night??? :)

  14. says

    I am into the 25th year of my marriage, just past the 24th anniversary, and I have never been alone in my home for an extended period of time. Not so unusual for most couples and families, but everyone else in the family has had at least a 3 day period on their own at home. Not me. So I view a solo time in nice hotel room as akin to a spa-like experience.

  15. says

    I love staying in hotels by myself! I can’t even remember the last time I did it. I can’t wait to hear all about BlogHer! Enjoy yourself!

  16. says

    Sounds heavenly. Enjoy Blogher! Wish I didn’t have to work. It would be fun to pop down from Milwaukee and meet the bloggers I admire in real life.

  17. Helene Cohen Bludman says

    I totally agree! It almost feels decadent, doesn’t it? That said, I am looking forward to sharing my room this time with a friend and chatting into the night.

  18. says

    I will, on the other hand, be staying with my daughter in her Lakeview (literally) apartment. But I will have the TV on in my bedroom- oh yes. And she will complain. And I will not care or there will be no dinners on Mom’s AMEX. So you see, you are never really alone- even by yourself. See you in Chicago!

  19. Jennifer Wagner says

    I so agree. I love having a hotel room to myself. I never had a roommate before because I love it so much. However, when I go to Type A in Atlanta this fall I am going to have one for the first time. I’ll see how it goes and then decide if I’ll ever do it again.

  20. Kathryn Galainena says

    Mary Dell, so nice to meet you today at BlogHer! Your blog, GROWN AND FLOWN
    speaks to me! I will now be an avid fan! Enjoy your time in the most beautiful city in the US!! Kathryn


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